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Didn’t Make The Team
Whether we like it or not, one of our biggest roles as parent’s is being a teacher. Whether our kids like it or not (my 12 year old has to suffer in silence often when I get him trapped in a car, lol!) one of our biggest roles as parent’s is being a teacher.
I think one of the biggest things kids need to know is simply how to handle different situations. Just like you teach them to dial 911 in case of an emergency, you need to teach them how to operate under ordinary every day life circumstances. One of the most recent topics of conversation that I can think of concerning something really important that our children must learn how to handle properly that is a hot topic is bullying. But the topic that is most recent for me would be teaching your kids how to handle rejection.
Let’s face it, rejection is something that no one likes. Ummm…let me think about the millions of us that are out here every day now job searching. Wouldn’t rejection be a popular theme?! lol. But anytime your children think about or want to step out of a comfort zone or take a risk in order to gain, there is always the possibility of rejection.
My oldest just tried out for his school basketball team. He’s always been athletic and has played well for several years now through the recreational center, however this was the first year that he has been old enough to play on his school team. So when I picked him up and he told me that he didn’t make his school team, I thought he was joking. He’s like no mom, really, I didn’t make it. So I had to regroup for a minute and assess that he was probably handling it better than me at that point. So is this a post about teaching our kids about handling rejection, or us ourselves handling rejection, lol, I’m not sure.
But I did tell him to explain further and asked him why he felt he didn’t make it. He started giving me something that his father had mentioned with them not having enough time or something, but after I dug a little deeper, I found out that very few from his grade were selected. It appears that even though some 7th graders do make the team, there are fewer and don’t get as much play time. I don’t quite understand why they don’t have separate teams for each grade, but I’m sure it has something to do with money.
Either way, I did step away from the “excuse train”, and told him that even though I know he is a good player, there may be some areas he really needs to work or grow in. Or maybe he just didn’t have the right connection or know the right person, lol. Hey, it’s a small town
So he’s playing for the recreational team again this year and even though he claims that “they suck” (so much for the winning team attitude I would like for him to have) I hope that he will gain the practice he needs along with hopefully seeing that he has the ability to shine if his team really isn’t that great. And even though I’ve never been a big sports promoter (he gets it all from his Dad obviously), I can see how it can be a good lesson in how to handle things like rejection which can be part of every day life.


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