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Summer’s Almost Over
Well, my twins are almost six now and getting ready to start kindergarten. Since I’m out of work right now, I’ve been able to spend a lot of it with them and while at times it’s made me think of how hard it is for those sahm’s, it’s also been a lot of fun. I really wanted to spend this summer with them before they started school, so my unemployment is definitely a curse and a blessing. This of course is naturally a bittersweet time for me because I know they are my last and they are growing up! My oldest is getting ready to turn 12 (they all have birthday’s in Sept. in the same wk) and heading off to 7th grade and I’m sort of still in shock about that. He has filled his summer with typical sport camps and even a “volunteen” program where he helped out in a facility that caters to the elder and handicapped. I’m so proud of him and thank goodness for a retired grandmother who is active, enjoys staying on the go and has been able to get him back and forth to and from things.
I was able to take him to Carowinds which is one of the largest amusement parks here in the South East and even though he wouldn’t ride “all” the rides, we did ride the newest and biggest roller coaster they have there. The experience (and his look) was priceless and I’m glad he didn’t puke. Being that I’ve always been a big roller coaster lover, I was sort of reminded of my age this go around. There won’t be too many more upside down coasters in my future!
A sad aspect besides them already starting school is that more than likely they will be staying with their dad during the week once school starts. Currently we have joint custody and although I did have hopes that we would possibly reconcile, it doesn’t seem that will happen. We do not live close enough in proximity to continue to share them jointly once they start school. Since I am busy with job searching, he has access to better schools and more space, it’s the best solution at this point even though it is quite a bummer for me and a hard one to have to suck up. I know many parents go through these same situations and feelings when people divorce, so there is some comfort in not being alone in it. Dad’s being full-time parents are increasingly more common and I feel that it’s less about which parent is “better” and more often about just plain circumstance. Being that you are a parent for a lifetime, it can definitely take many different shapes and mean different things at different times throughout it. I have a friend of mine who has went through a similar experience with her divorce and have made it a point to call her and ask her how she has dealt with being the weekend parent over the years. I’m hoping to eventually move closer at some point, however even then I sometimes feel it’s better for them to be in the same bed every night. There’s really no easy answer or escape, it just sometimes comes with the territory of being a parent.
Well, that’s all for now, but will continue to keep you updated and informed on the “parenting” side of life’s latest topics. Thanks for reading!
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