I believe when MTV started airing this show concerning teen pregnancy, there were many parents who felt this would encourage sex or possibly teen parenting. However, after seeing the real lives of real teens after pregnancy is possibly the best thing that could have ever been done. I don’t see how anyone who has watched the show could see it as a way to curb teen pregnancy and promote abstinence or at least safer sex. If nothing else, it provides opportunity for dialogue between parents and teens. I don’t have their names all in tact, but each of the teens have a different situation. Even though the scenerio’s are different, they all shout one thing. Don’t have babies before you are ready, lol!

The first situation is one girl who has the mother that has is controlling and painfully loving. The new teen mom hopes to maintain a “functional” balance in her life while still taking care of her daughter. Her sister is constantly judging her in her role as a mother and even though she wants to still have a social life, she can’t help but feel awkward at a football game with a new baby when she had just recently been a cheerleader there. Her mother complains and whines telling her what to do, however still enables her daughter to go out, and meet other guys. Where’s this chic’s dad at? I think I saw him a few times sitting in fear waiting on claws to come out between his wife and two daughters at any time.

Next is the couple that put their child up for adoption. There are different types of adoptions with all types of restrictions and regulations, and I’m unclear of what theirs are. Actually I don’t think they are any clearer than I am. They didn’t have parents that were supportive in their decision so it looks like the only person they communicate with is the adoption agencies rep who looks a little scared in dealing with these two lost teens. They go out to get semi-matching baby tattoo’s to show their love for their daughter and then off to the beach to show them to their friends. Their intention with the adoption was to give their daughter a better chance in life then they had, however with their unwillingness to let go and move on, I wonder if they weren’t just doing it out of anger towards their parents who seem less than perfect themselves. While the adoptive parents did seem open to allowing them to know their child in some capacity, I doubt they are ready for the teens to show up on their door steps. In the teens minds, they see their daughter a still their child. Maybe this is when open adoption’s aren’t such a good idea? Is there therapy available for these teens after such a traumatic ordeal? Is their denial the only thing that is keeping them in tact? It’s good that they have each other for support, but it seems they have a hard long road ahead of them.

I’ll complete this post in a few days when I wrap up with the last two teen pregnancy situations. Here’s a link to my original post when the teens were pregnant. Sixteen and Pregnant