Cameron Diaz recently spoke about her decision to not have children. She says that most of her friends are childless by choice at this point and that she feels there are enough people on the planet.

I can personally say that out of my very few close friends, three of them are in their 30’s and still child-free. When you talk to them about it, all of them make references to wanting to be mothers but simply aren’t at a comfortable place for themselves to have a child or they haven’t found someone that they want to have children with. One friend says that her and her guy had the discussion and it came to the “who wants to bring a child into this world” philosophy.

When you really stop and think about it, there’s absolutely nothing logical about having children. If you are an adult making a conscious decision to get pregnant, there’s probably some sort of lapse in judgment that is caused by emotions and the heart.

There aren’t the same pressures by society to have children. If anything, now it’s to have less of them. “Save the planet, have less kids!”. Being a mother, I’m not offended, I actually agree. Sometimes I’m glad I had the choice to have children, at other times I wish I wouldn’t have.

My experience has been written and I am at peace with it, however even though I would love to have a grandchild or two (one or two at the most, BTW! I would love even more for my children to be at peace with their lives without having children. Or if they did, it was made through the decision to adopt one that was already here and needed parents. That’s probably the only responsible way to parent unless you were blessed with excellent DNA and flawless parenting qualities.

There’s no doubt that the face of parents in our generation is changing. Sure, there are still the “sixteen and pregnant’s” (which I will do my next post on) but there are more and more people who are using their heads as much as they are their hearts when it comes to this life and planet changing decision.