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Is Santa Really Necessary?

Posted by Laurel on December 18th, 2008

I know, I know. First all of the “heathens” want to do away with using the word God in schools, now this retarded blogger wants to do away with Santa?! What is the world coming to?!

It’s nothing personal Santa. It’s just that for some reason, I don’t like lying to my kids…about anything. Even something that everyone seems to think brings so much fun and joy into a young child’s life.

I joke with my kids. I will tell them something just to pull their leg & enjoy seeing their eyes get really wide. But after the joke is over, the truth is out. Obviously as a parent, I do shelter them from some things, but for the most part, I would consider myself an honest parent in all areas.

I did a few years of Santa (not overboard with cookies & milk) with my oldest & since my twins have heard about him from everyone out in the world, I just nod and shake my head yes to their tales of “telling Santa Claus” on each other. I even kept my 10-yr-old from disclosing this great truth to them when they threatened to tell Santa on him for not behaving. As soon as he said, “there is no….” I repeated the mantra of let them be children and don’t take that from them. Take what from them is really what I’m asking myself?

I remember staying up late, falling asleep in the hallway waiting on my glimpse of this supposed big fat, jolly man with a red get up. I remember feeling a little cheated and angry, knowing that my sleep had gotten the best of me in another year of trying to disprove this figment of worldly imagination.

Isn’t there already enough joy in the holidays that there is really no need for me to feel guilty or like my children will further question other things that I will tell them in the future because I have given into this treasured myth and legacy of a “Santa”?

Once again, it’s nothing personal Santa, but I would like to leave my kids with a little more empowerment than teaching them that their holiday happiness is dependent on whether they are “good or bad” and how much this sentiment leaves them under the tree. For when Santa goes away along with the years of their childhood, the holiday’s should be no less magical.

I know, it’s official…I’m a grinch ;)

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My views on this have changed. I always thought that it was harmless fun and anyone who didn’t agree was a Scrooge and wanted to take the joy away from kids.

Now I’ve changed because a lie is a lie. I’m not going to lie to my kids because once they know I’ve lied about that, they may start to question other things I’ve told them, especially about God.

So as for me and my house, I say NO to Santa.

We don’t do Santa in our house either. We’re not boring old stick-in-the-muds, it’s just never come up and I don’t feel the need to teach him about something which is totally irrelevant.

I am having pangs of guilt this year. This is the first year my oldest has gotten really into santa. I think next year we may tell her it’s pretend. We haven’t encouraged it but in preschool they have been doing a lot of Santa related things.

Although, when I was a kid my parents did Santa and I never thought anything of it once I figured it out. I thought it was sort of a harmless game at the time. Now that I’m a parent, I’m just confused about the issue.

We don’t “do” Santa and never have. Only my youngest has ever voiced even the slightest regret about it. We’ve always had a great time at Christmas with our own little traditions.

All of our children were adopted, so I felt it was doubly important that they didn’t view me as someone who was keeping back part of the story from them about anything.

And I’ve always believed that the home and church should be where we celebrate the real reason for the season.

Sure, I like Santa TV specials and movies, and Santa songs - just like I like stories about other make-believe characters.

I must say I am quite surprised by the feedback. I was almost certain I would hear more from Santa supporters. Thought it would be a “controversial” lol - post! It’s comforting to know that I’m not the only one that has struggled with this issue! Thx guys!

The Santa supporters have closed their browser window and vowed never to return to Parenting Diva again.

Just kidding.

Kind of.

lol! :)



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