It’s inevitable. No matter what you do or how great or not so great you are as a parent, you will experience rejection in parenthood.

I think it first starts when they are able to reach in one particular direction or another (around 6 months). Usually the first bond is with the mother, so us moms are lucky there. But once dad or someone else has taken over a few times, then it is quite possible while we are holding them, they reach for that other special someone.

The rejection doesn’t end there of course. There are times where the other parent leaves or where the stay at grandma’s is just too great and you go from hero to zero. There are morning’s like this morning where I go in to tell my lovely daughter to rise and shine and she tells me… “you are not daddy”. Ouch, talk about a popularity ratings drop. It doesn’t help if you have a parenting partner that is a great parent.

A lot of women complain about the dad’s. He doesn’t help, he doesn’t discipline. I can’t say any of that. And because Daddy is not the homebody I am and loves to take them out and about and is so much fun, then I’m fighting a losing battle. Some dad’s actually seem to be the better parent because they don’t tend to get as stressed out and keep their cool a little better. Maybe it’s because simply one word coming from that deep throat of their’s does wonders for snapping them back into shape.

Oh well. I know there are many moments when I am the one that they request or that they can’t wait to see coming through the door. I know that even though I share the center of my kids universe and the road of competition gets even greater as they grow older, that the moments of love and joy far surpass the inevitable…rejection.

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