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What Would Your Kids Lives Be Like Without You?
I guess this post is sort of a spin off of Dannie’s last post that deals with your possible death as a parent.
For me, I don’t find the idea of dying so scary. I came very close to death when I was 23 yrs old and my youngest was 3. I was basically carried into the hospital when my appendix ruptured and I was possibly only a few days or weeks away from death because it had ruptured and the poisons had began to infect other organs.
Don’t get me wrong, it was a very scary experience and the most painful physical experience I’ve ever had, with three weeks in the hospital and three plus months of recovery. However there was some definite strength that I drew from it, as well as the knowledge of how easily death can come knocking. With that memory, I’m often reminded that had it not been for modern medicine, I would have died young and left a three-year-old child behind.
One of the things that I took from the whole experience was that I always want my children to be able to be okay and live on healthily & happily if something were to happen to me. I make sure that their father’s are fully capable of parenting on their own as well as having several other people in their lives whom they share dependency on besides me.
There are tons of ways to prepare children for the inevitable without scaring them and leaving them emotional scarred for life. It’s not only your death when they are young that can leave children handicapped, but some adults lack coping skills that hinder them for years after a parent passes. Understanding how you can make a big difference of how your children handle your death and whether they are prepared is a huge responsibility and in my opinion, part of being a good parent.
