Apparently to some of the audience Kate, from Jon & Kate Plus 8, appears to be verbally and physically abusive towards her husband; and she isn’t such a great role model or parent for her eight children.

I’ve only seen a few episodes in which I saw nothing wrong minus the fact that she was a good example of what being human was all about. I did a post on it saying that the show actually made me feel normal as a parent, knowing that I wasn’t the only imperfect one out there. There were times she wasn’t as cool as a cucumber and I saw where it appears that her and her husband don’t have the perfect marriage…but, like most - it seems they try.

One lady suggested that the show be cancelled until Kate underwent psychological treatment. Surprisingly, it didn’t appear that this woman had any children (or at least she didn’t mention how she never treated her children that way) much less eight. Having eight children in the first place might make any normal woman angry, for a while anyway! While the lady made some very valid points and pointed out examples that proved that Kate had some dysfunction and wasn’t always as loving, kind and caring as the perfect mother and wife should seem to be, I have to wonder what the point of pointing these things out was really all about?

The real question being, is that if we all had the benefit of having our dirty laundry aired on national television and our flaws put out for display, would we really be able to do anything about it or change it? Is this a realistic concept? And even further than that, who would raise all the children while all the parents were being evaluated and trained properly?

Let’s face it, I would say over ½ the people that have children, probably shouldn’t have them. I have seen what seemed to be the perfect parent here or there…or at least the more perfect than I am. I have to wonder if there isn’t some micro-chip implanted somewhere in them? They don’t yell, they make sure their children get milk and fruit with their chicken nuggets, they go to church every Sunday and they spend family time volunteering at the homeless shelter…my aspired life in a nutshell.

The question is, would I ever get there and if I’m honest enough with myself, the answer is no. I will probably never live that lifestyle and if I ever do, it may take me a lifetime to get there. I simply wasn’t programmed that way & programming me differently would take a lot of work that would need to be put in while I am working a 40 hour a wk job and another full-time job with children. When I poke and prod my husband with my aspirations, (and with whom I reside under a different roof from) he responds by saying…we’re not the Brady Bunch.

So while I believe there is always an underlying desire for us to be different or better people and parents, I also am realistic enough to know that even as I am, I must be okay with that, as imperfect as it may be or seem to others. There will always be a wide range of parents/people and their abilities concerning being more aware and evolved as the kind and loving people that we feel we should be. Then there is the time, energy and needed resources that each person has at their disposal that helps to determine whether such conscious leaps and bounds are taken towards their own personal development and evolution. And there are people here, that are parents that are simply happy with being where they are in the present moment.

I do find it a little ironic how anyone can criticize or judge someone else for being unkind, unloving, and impatient when that is a place you would have to be in, in order to say that about someone else…hmmm.