http://www.parentingdiva.com/2008/06/30/is-there-a-right-time-to-have-children/ Parenting With Lemons Wed, 08 Sep 2010 14:41:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://www.parentingdiva.com/2008/06/30/is-there-a-right-time-to-have-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1344 Lorela Tue, 08 Jul 2008 07:22:01 +0000 http://www.parentingdiva.com/2008/06/30/is-there-a-right-time-to-have-children/#comment-1344 I believe there is such a thing as having the right time for almost everything, but for people to determine the right time is quite impossible. Things do happen, sometimes we can not just get hold of it. I take my case to faith. I had always wanted to have kids when i was around 27-28, but it did not happen. The miracle of birthing came when I was already 30. So, I guess that was the right time for me to have my son; and it was my faith who took me me here and made me realize this is the right and perfect time. I believe there is such a thing as having the right time for almost everything, but for people to determine the right time is quite impossible. Things do happen, sometimes we can not just get hold of it. I take my case to faith. I had always wanted to have kids when i was around 27-28, but it did not happen. The miracle of birthing came when I was already 30. So, I guess that was the right time for me to have my son; and it was my faith who took me me here and made me realize this is the right and perfect time.

]]> http://www.parentingdiva.com/2008/06/30/is-there-a-right-time-to-have-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1326 Valencia Wed, 02 Jul 2008 15:15:15 +0000 http://www.parentingdiva.com/2008/06/30/is-there-a-right-time-to-have-children/#comment-1326 I don't think there's ever a perfect time to have children, but there are definitely wrong times. Let's face it: kids have needs, and if you're not in the right emotional or financial state to care for these needs, it can take the joy out of childrearing (or so I hear). I realize that unplanned pregnancies occur, in which you have to make the best of the situation. Then again, some people purposely get pregnant without counting the cost, which I feel is a little irresponsible. I don’t think there’s ever a perfect time to have children, but there are definitely wrong times. Let’s face it: kids have needs, and if you’re not in the right emotional or financial state to care for these needs, it can take the joy out of childrearing (or so I hear). I realize that unplanned pregnancies occur, in which you have to make the best of the situation. Then again, some people purposely get pregnant without counting the cost, which I feel is a little irresponsible.

]]> http://www.parentingdiva.com/2008/06/30/is-there-a-right-time-to-have-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1320 Dannie Mon, 30 Jun 2008 18:46:22 +0000 http://www.parentingdiva.com/2008/06/30/is-there-a-right-time-to-have-children/#comment-1320 I think the right time is always based on the person, then again, I think there really is no right time. I guess I am one of those believers that you just have to do it or it will never happen. Sure, that might not be sensible, but I have seen so many of my friends be sensible and follow the – college-job-marriage course – that now two of them, due to acts beyond their control, will most likely never have children that desperately wanted them. I on the other hand followed a different path, I married at 19 and had my first at 21 and my second at 26 and don’t regret having them young. I know that if I had waited until everything fell into place, I most likely would still not have children just because of how things have turned out. Sometimes things just don’t happen the way we want and if we wait forever, it may never happen. I think the right time is always based on the person, then again, I think there really is no right time. I guess I am one of those believers that you just have to do it or it will never happen. Sure, that might not be sensible, but I have seen so many of my friends be sensible and follow the – college-job-marriage course – that now two of them, due to acts beyond their control, will most likely never have children that desperately wanted them. I on the other hand followed a different path, I married at 19 and had my first at 21 and my second at 26 and don’t regret having them young. I know that if I had waited until everything fell into place, I most likely would still not have children just because of how things have turned out. Sometimes things just don’t happen the way we want and if we wait forever, it may never happen.

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