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Should I Spank My Child?
At this point in society, spanking doesn’t seem politically correct. My little knowledge concerning it says it’s against the law. I know that is a fact in New Zealand it’s illegal (my husband has been there). Whether or not I actually spank my children I will not confess to the world, but I do think it’s a very worth discussion.
I suppose that in an ideal world, one would not spank their child. Obviously people who spank their children just to feel powerful, let off steam or frustration would be considered wrong. However spanking has been a system of discipline for centuries that has seemed to serve a purpose and created order and peace in some homes which otherwise would not have had any.
We’ve all seen them. The kids who run all over their parents and who simply seem like spoiled and rotted children. The world is at their beck and call and their only purpose is to have whatever it is that they want. Not only are they never put into place on occasion, but simply won’t take no for an answer either. I’ll admit it, those would be my children every once in awhile.
I have tried time outs, taking things away and communicating as much as possible the older they get. And while, these methods and approaches have had some positive results, they haven’t totally produced the respectful, loving and obedient children that the rule makers seem to have promised.
I often cringe when I think of out of control children who grow up not only to not take any guidance or direction, but also abuse their parents verbally and sometimes physically.
What is a parent to do if a child can have them arrested for standing up for themselves or the child isn’t old enough to get the heck out? In my opinion living with an abusive child or living behind bars for trying to correct this behavior are both forms of imprisonment so what options to parents have? Boot camp is what always comes to my mind. Fortunately I only have one out of my three that may reach that destination.
So until the same people who try to dictate our lives and say that no spanking is allowed come up with a better tried and proven system of discipline that can be facilitated in a reasonable way that maintains healthy, happy and well-mannered children, then I say the choice should still be left up to the parent.
I’m going to throw this out here and say that some kids need to be spanked-period.
However I don’t see myself spanking my future children. I believe in what I like to call “alternative forms of punishment.”
Ask my younger siblings, they’ll tell you all about it.