When I was growing up Father’s Day was never a huge celebration filled with cards or a family dinner out. See how I easily forgot to write about it on the day of…actually that may have been more to do with my hectic day with my children and their father, but it sounds better the other way.

When I was younger there wasn’t anyone around. Now before anyone goes on to say, oh how unfortunate, I must say that my attitude concerning this was never one of an unfortunate nature. In fact, as I got older (say 10ish or so) and I became more aware of my missing walking DNA strand, I was actually thankful that I didn’t have a “daddy” around. I sort of looked at the girls who had fathers’ as sheltered or weak in some way. And then there were the ones who had ones that didn’t seem to add up to too much and probably had done more harm than good in their lives. So I figured not having one at all maybe wasn’t such an awful thing after all.

There was also the fact that having one person (my mother) telling me what to do all the time was bad enough.

Of course as I got older, my feelings changed a little and if nothing else, I had to admit that I had to be just a little bit curious concerning whom my father was and why he wasn’t around. But even though my mother has given me enough information to do a search, to this very date I’ve felt other things a little more important in my life right now.

Maybe I’ll save that phone call for a rainy day.

To sum up what I’ve learned concerning being a girl who grew up without a father, is that I’m glad I didn’t feel sorry for myself in my situation, yet rather saw the positives. I also feel that if you truly have the desire to have anything in your life, you can have it. You may not get the gift in the box you are expecting it to come in, and you may have to look a little harder than others to find it, but anything that you truly desire will usually always show up right in front of you. But if you are blind with anger, bitterness and self-pity, you will almost never see it or be able to receive it. I also learned about how great and limitless relationships in life can be.

If you are looking for a real father, mentor and friend, there are some out there willing to reach out to you, even if they don’t share your same DNA strand.