I like Valentine’s Day. It usually means something yummy and perhaps a little piece of jewelry or an accessory from my counterpart. However, if Valentine’s Day falls on a weekday, it’s likely that it will be spent together as a family. So, might as well make the best of it!

Here’s some Valentine’s Day “teachable moments” for families:

• Inclusiveness: My daughter has issues with two of the kids in her class. She’s not keen on sending them cards and candy. However, it’s the right thing to do at this age, not to mention a classroom rule. Another important lesson she can get out of this is that sometimes you have to do things that you don’t want to do. Yeah, she really needs to learn that lesson!
• Partnership: If you do get a babysitter and go out, this is an opportunity to show your children that your marriage and/or partnership is an important piece of the family puzzle.
• Respect: I expect my daughter and son to be treated well by their future partners, and to treat them well in return. My husband and I provide an example of this by treating each other especially well on this romantic day.
• Moderation: One piece of chocolate candy is good. Twelve pieces? Not so much. In addition, a small present is fine. Large, expensive presents could be irresponsible, depending on your personal situation and agreements.
• Volunteerism: Elementary school Valentine’s Day parties are usually in need of parents to help shepherd crowds of children through the card, food, arts and crafts traditions. Show up and help out.

Most holidays and traditions have some sort of teachable moments in them. Find the best ways to express your family’s beliefs through these moments.