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I Didn’t Like Breastfeeding.

Posted by Allena Tapia on January 30th, 2008

There. I said it.

What am I, some kind of Mommy monster? Even now I’m thinking of erasing this post and talking about something else. I’m wondering where this post will end up on the internet…

But, it’s true. I didn’t like it.

I was watching one of those baby shows that pervade daytime TV yesterday, and realized that the couples tend to go 50/50 on breastfeeding success. Almost 100% say beforehand that they want to try it, but, based on my recollection, only about half seem to stick with it to the 6 week follow up.

Watching the show reminded me of my love-hate relationship with breastfeeding. I didn’t like being constantly on call. I didn’t like being the go-to every single moment. I didn’t like how it felt, I didn’t like being half naked in weird places, but I didn’t like staying home, either. I didn’t like cracked nipples, I didn’t like dry nipples, I didn’t like rock hard boobies, I didn’t like leaky boobies, and I didn’t like wearing those little circles in my bra that rubbed me the wrong way and peeked out at odd times.

Did I do it? Well, I, also had a 50/50 success rate. One child got breastmilk and one child didn’t. My eldest, a girl, got colostrum, and that’s about it. My son got a little more.

My point is that, although breastfeeding is natural, it doesn’t come naturally. It is full of challenges, and going into it knowing that (as I did with my second child) will be key to your success.

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My son is weaning himself right now, so we’ve had 9 months of breastfeeding success. I NEVER EVER EVER wanted to breastfeed until about 5 months into my pregnancy. I figured I would try it and it probably wouldn’t work anyhow. I’ve had no problems, no plugged ducts, no sore anything, no cracked anything, as I’ve heard I’m extremely lucky.

BUT I didn’t like pumping, I didn’t like leaking, I didn’t like when my son got teeth and bit me so hard I thought I’d passout, I didn’t (and still don’t) like being the only one getting up at night.

It’s a love hate thing, and mine is almost over….Ahhhhh, a real bra…..no way!

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I’m glad that you wrote this post. I don’t plan on having children, but if it happens - I don’t want to breastfeed. Whenever I mention my lack of interest in breastfeeding, I get attacked with wide-eye stares and drop mouths. Yet, I know several women who stopped breastfeeding within the first two to three weeks.

I’m sure a LOT of women feel like you do, they just don’t want to get attacked by the “boob nazi’s” you know? ;)

Next one I have I’ve already decided will be breast fed for the first 6 weeks then will be put on formula. I’d rather keep taking my “happy pills” then keep breastfeeding. The last one I breastfed for 16 months and since 8 months I hated breastfeeding.

It’s sometimes very difficult to do and people put WAY too much pressure on it.

It’s been quite a few years since I’ve had babies to breastfeed, but I actually only did it with every other child. Breast feeding my first child made me hurt so bad, actually caused my nipples to bleed, that I gave up after a full month of pain.

It got easier after that with subsequent children, except I was so busy chasing after the other ones, I ended up having to switch to the bottle. Chasing after four or five other kiddos makes it rather difficult to relax enough to allow the baby to nurse.

Hi all, glad to see I’m not the only one. Well, in all honestly, I KNEW I wasn’t the only one, as I’ve watched formerly preggo “boob nazis” learn within weeks that it wasn’t all that.

I’m sure of the benefits. I understand them. But I’m also brave enough to say that it goes the other way, too.
*gasp*

PS- at the risk of ppl I know reading this, I still have boobie issues today.

I love this post and feel exactly the same way Allena. Your post is honest and to the point.

Breastfeeding can and often hurts.
Breastfeeding can hurt so much. I was in so much pain that I cried.
Nursing bras are the most asexual, ugliest thing ever.
You may live constantly in fear that you will not have enough milk and your child will starve, that your child will want another feed soon and you will cry out in pain.
Ahh, it was so good to stop. So good to go out of the house for a few hours and leave the bottle with a formula with a friend.

I totally understand your point. I know this will upset some but I was so shy I did not even try to breastfeed my first child until after I left the hospital. I breast fed him about 1/2 of the time until he was three months. With my second I only part time breast fed her until 2 months. And with my third I made a mental commitment to exclusively breastfeed him until 3 months. I got through the first two and then he was pretty much weened by the third month.

I am so glad I came across this post. My son is 4 and a half months old and he has been BF (with a couple exceptions where I had to top off the bottle with 1 or 2 oz of formula). I must say I find breastfeeding to be on the of the most annoying things I have ever done!! Pumping at work is terrible, and all those that say breastfeeding is a wonderful, rewarding experience is out of their minds :( I will continue to do it, though, since I know it is the best for the baby, but that doesn’t mean I have to love it.

My baby is 2 weeks old and I do NOT like breastfeeding. I am exclusively breastfeeding at the moment, but it is sooo draining. Baby is gaining weight very well, so I guess I am being successful with it, but I am beginning to dread each feeding session. I feel like a horrible mommy for admitting it though. There are so many women out there that look down upon any other woman who does not want to breastfeed. I don’t like how it feels, I don’t like being the only one who can feed him, and I am going insane with lack of sleep. at least with formula, dh can get up in the night and take a shift. Time will tell how long I’ll last with this breastfeeding. I hope to at least make it to 3 months, though originally my goal was 6 months.

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I really tried breastfeeding too. But the pain was terrible, I had a plugged duct, and the baby wasn’t gaining weight fast enough. I made the decision to start bottle feeding her and I’ve been happy ever since!! And I’m sorry but I don’t feel guilty at all. I can work now and not worry about taking breaks to pump, and I don’t have to stress about it anymore. Plus, I honestly don’t think breast feeding makes that much of a difference (I’ll probably get shot for saying that). My niece is 2 and a half years old and she never had a drop of breast milk, and she’s the smartest little girl I’ve ever seen. My friends daughter is 2 and the mom still breastfeeds her occasionally (sorry, but gross) and she doesn’t talk or really do anything… So I think it’s just better to do what feels right for you and not worry about what other people say about you because it’s none of their damn business anyway!

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